A quick Google search shows that even though the media has largely gone quiet on the #MeToo movement, there are still some lingering Tweets and articles on it. It has now been dubbed the #MeToo era and many have been left to scratch their heads over its lingering effects. I do believe that the whole debacle is worth reflecting on briefly.
The explosive nature of its eruption on social media brought on many injustices. As always, when there are “revolutions”, these movements bring on mixed emotions. In one case a woman may have lied, in another case the facts may have gotten skewed after 20 years of emotional turmoil, in yet another case the procedures may have fallen far short of anything judicious.
But lets say that we take a step back and analyze the #MeToo era at arms length. A massive movement like this doesn’t happen out of nowhere. We might critique the excesses of the movement. We might critique the litigious desire of certain women. We might critique the lack of judicial process. But the fact is, the Movement happened. And we would do well to self-reflect on their critique in the after math.
When people joke about the #MeToo movement, and laugh at emotionally vulnerable women, I am left scratching my head. Yeah but… these kind of things don’t happen out of nowhere. I would wager that for as many abuses as were perpetrated by the #MeToo Movement, there are many many more skeletons that we have never seen, because women are too scared of the potential lash-back.
Women tend to receive the short end of the stick in the pro-life movement. I think of how in many of the stories I know of, a pregnant woman gets up on stage by herself to repent for her abortion. But she didn’t get pregnant by herself. Where did the man go? There are actually guys who blur and push boundaries. There are guys who actually manipulate women into having sex with them. There are guys who rape. There actually are drunken parties where bad things happen. I would wager that many members of conservative Christian churches are quicker to minimize these stories than confront them head on in love and mercy and… justice. Why? Because, everybody is a sinner, they say. Not sure when that became a justification…
Yes. Both men and women are sinners. But lets be honest with ourselves. Even conservatives believe the lie of equality when it comes to protecting themselves. Women are the weaker vessel (I Peter 3:7). There is nothing sexist about this statement. It is simply a recognition of basic biology to notice that it was far easier for Joseph to flee the grasp of Potiphar’s wife (Gen. 39) than it was for Dina to flee the grasp of Shechem (Gen. 34).
Yes, a man must not give his strength to the women who destroy kings (Prov. 31:3). And that includes not giving his strength to many of the women in the #MeToo Movement. But he is also called to stand up and open his mouths for the mute, for the rights of all who are destitute, to open his mouth and judge righteously, to defend the rights of the poor and the needy (Prov. 31:8). He is called to be a humble servant of Jesus Christ.
Habakkuk writes in 1:4: “So the law is paralyzed, and justice never goes forth. For the wicked surround the righteous; so justice goes forth perverted.” I am sure that many women in the #MeToo era would have identified with this statement. I argue that #MeToo happened, because in many parts of North America, the law is paralyzed and justice is perverted. I would also argue that if the Church doesn’t take responsibility for her role in the situation, this situation will go from bad to worse. Hosea ran into the problem in his day that there were many whores among the women. But what does he say in 4:14? “I will not punish your daughters when they play the whore, nor your brides when they commit adultery; for the men themselves go aside with prostitutes and sacrifice with cult prostitutes, and a people without understanding shall come to ruin.” Men don’t get a free pass on their lusts after the #MeToo era.
I can imagine many situations which are very appropriate to speak out loud and clear and to take the appropriate avenues for criticism. I would suggest that #MeToo revealed a massive problem that has gone unaddressed for far to long. I am glad that it got people talking and thinking about the issues. It may be good that a lid was put on the excesses. But we should not allow the excesses to become a straw-man for the real issues at stake. We should not allow wicked men to put a lid on any criticism. Remember for all the excesses of the women in the #MeToo movement, the abuses of many men are just as excessive. And more. I would simply say: if there is something wrong, work and pray. Keep fighting and trusting. Love would say something. Love would fight.